Mens perspective on dating
He wanted to help protect me from too quickly getting involved in another relationship—a common problem for men who are divorced or widowed.
(My advice: Lock them in a secure room for the first six months.) My friend's counsel was simple, and should be heeded by all Christian single men regardless of age: Concentrate first on being the right person, then on finding the right person.
The latter was often done in the time between engagement and marriage.
Taking a wife was a serious commitment, one that demanded earnest preparation.
I believe: 1) Men should initiate the relationship.
If a man wants to find the right person he needs to be the right person, and that takes concentrated effort that is best begun before there is a potential mate on the scene.
If a man is serious about walking with Christ, and serious about wanting to be the right kind of husband and father someday, how should he prepare himself?
Since he has money, he didn’t mind paying for this surprisingly costly lunch date. He knew that she was taking advantage of the situation.
On this particular afternoon, he went to meet her for a quick coffee/lunch because he had some spare time. She decided that she wanted to eat at a pretty expensive restaurant.
Men are frustrated because they don't understand what women want from them; and if they do have a clue, men feel the expectations are too high. How should Christian men and women move toward deeper friendship, possibly even engagement and marriage?